- Dialogue should not happen immediately after a return home from work. Allow some time to decompress, before entering into that safe space. If possible, determine a “prime time” that works for both of you, the day before.
- Dialogue tenderizes your hearts and allows you to approach issues with full knowledge of the feelings involved. Sometimes this provides a new lens for seeing what is important and allows you to face those issues together, rather than from opposing sides.
- Dialogue can be a time of growth and discovery, both personally and in your marriage.
- Dialogue is part of rediscovering the person you love…your spouse.
- After dialoguing, problem solving will be more effective as a team.
- If a dialogue becomes untenable or overly emotional, then the purpose of dialogue is potentially compromised. It’s okay to stop, however, commit to working on dialoguing on the feelings at a later time, or the next day.
- Do not stop dialoguing. If you miss a day, get back on that horse and start again.
- One thing you can count on is that there will be issues that need to be resolved.
- Dialogue tenderizes your hearts and allows you to approach those issues with full knowledge of the feelings involved.